Guidelines for Teaching Children about Sex (ZT)

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Sex education

3-5 (preschool)
correct names for body parts (e.g. penis, vagina)
body differences between boys and girls

6 - 9 (early elementary school)
The basics of reproduction system
Good touch and bad touch
A fetus is inside the uterus and a baby usually comes out of the vagina
Milk comes from the breasts

9 –13 (upper elementary school)
changes in both boys and girls during puberty (e.g. girls’ menstruate, boys’ ejaculate and wet dreams)
intercourse can cause pregnancy and having children is a long-term responsibility
basics on contraception
let your child know it is OK if his or her opinions differ from you

15 – 18 (high school)
Integrate sexuality into your value system
Feel good about your own body and sexuality
Appropriate manner to express your sexual feeling
The importance of protected sexual behaviors
Choosing a method of contraception
Responsibilities of parenthood and child care
Long-term commitments
People’s sexual and emotional needs change
Importance of Communication about Sexuality with Your Children

* Understand how Do Children And Teens Learn About Sex
* Parents are the most influential in their children’s sexual decision-making
* Parents should be the primary sexuality educator for their children
* Kids who feel they can talk with their parents about are less likely to engage in high-risk behavior as teens

Goals of Communication

To assist them in understanding a positive view of sexuality
To provide them with information and skills about taking care of their sexual health
To help them acquire skills to make decisions now and in the future.
To understand learning sexuality being a lifelong process of forming attitudes, beliefs, and values about identity, relationships and intimacy.

Getting Prepared for the Talk

* Obtain accurate and age-appropriate information
* Explore your own attitude
* Follow guidelines appropriate for the child’s age
* Choose appropriate time and place to start the talk
* Join some seminars help by schools and the community
* Find a tutoring program of communication for yourself

Communication Skills

* Overcome your own embarrassment
* Be approachable
* Pick a good time and place
* Talk more than once
* Give accurate information
* Anticipate the next stage of development
* Discuss instead of lecture
* Teach joys of sex as well as the risks